Being more selfish can make you a more giving person, and be more respectable in the eyes of others.
A prevailing message that you may have received while growing up is that it’s best to be someone that gives to others, which will gladly rip the shirt off of your back to help others. While I understand that this is to teach children to be respectable and teach them to be considerate to others (always a good message), messages like this often are interpreted to mean that putting yourself first is a dreadful thing. If being giving and selfless is a good thing, being selfish is a bad thing. Even the word “selfish” has a negative connotation to it.
I propose that the word isn’t as negative as it seems, and it is often in your own best interest in life to be selfish. Listed below are three reasons why you should be selfish in your life, and the perks of being this way. No, you don’t have to become a jerk or even alter your personality (much) to achieve this.
No one will look out or care for you as much as you will
People will have more respect for you if you're a bit selfish
In “Become Whole” I cover why this is unattractive and how to approach the decision to give to others, and determine if doing this is from the right place.
You’ll find that you’ll have an easier time getting what you want out of life.
People that are operate from their own mental perspective and look out for themselves first find that they have an easier time getting the respect that they deserve, and what they want tends to come easier for them than those who aren’t as selfish. Often people who give with ulterior motives neglect to be more direct with their needs and because of this, they don’t make what they want known to others. People are willing to help, but they need to know what it is that’s expected of them and how they can help. Those that are more selfish in how they operate have less trouble in this area as opposed to those that aren’t.
It’s okay to give, but understand that we are made to look out for ourselves first, and we should expect everyone we meet to operate in this way.
1 thought on “Why it’s Good to be Selfish”
Self-care is selfish. Has to be without that you can’t achieve anything in life. You have to put yourself above than others.
In today’s times, looks like nothing matters. Whether you are selfish and put yourself above others or put others first. People in general are selfish. They’re looking for their own interests.
You have found yourself bc you put lots of work in yourself. It means you became selfish for your improvements.
Whether you come across as a confident or not, people do what they want to do. You might be noticed by others little but still doesn’t make much difference in my experience.